Many boys have difficulty chatting with girls, not because they don’t know the routine, but because there is a problem with the idea of ????chatting. For example, if you ask a girl out, the girl may ask you: "Why did you ask me out?"

Let’s take a look at two answers:

Answer 1: “Because I want to see you.”

Answer 2: “Good things must be with the right person, of course. Share, my food won’t taste good if you don’t come.”

Which answer will be more acceptable to girls?

Nonsense, of course the purpose of asking a girl out for dinner is to meet her. Ah! This is what we really think, but it’s another matter if you honestly express this idea.

So if you use answer 1, if you are not attractive to her to a certain extent, girls will often feel very hesitant and embarrassed. She has to carefully weigh the gains and losses of agreeing and rejecting, so she must It may take a long time before I agree to your invitation.

A boy’s thinking is dominated by desire, and he will say whatever he thinks. Girls are different. A girl's thinking is dominated by emotions. She doesn't care what your purpose is or what the reason is. She only cares about how your words make you feel.

Answer 1 is all your own thoughts and has nothing to do with her. She will naturally weigh it rationally.

And answer 2 directly hits the girl’s emotions. First of all, you praised her, and secondly, you affirmed her importance and made her think that if she didn't go, there would be something wrong, so it would be easier to think about it.

In the same way, the same applies to other aspects. When we communicate with a girl, we must start by hitting her emotions. Only then can your words be recognized and accepted by her.

If you don’t understand the idea of ????chatting, a girl will often leave you speechless with a simple question.

If you still don’t quite understand, the editor will share 3 more tips with you.

1. Change the topic

Sometimes he talks about others and does not answer questions directly. It will make girls think you are escaping, but they will be impressed by your wit. This is because there is no right or wrong for some questions, and there is no standard answer. Whether your answer is good or not does not depend on what you said, but on how your mentality and demeanor when you answer make the girl feel.

For example, a girl asks you: "Have you had many girlfriends?"

At this time, you can say: "Have you ever drank Xiangpiaopiao milk tea?"

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　“I basically don’t drink instant milk tea.”

　“Look, even girls who love milk tea like you basically don’t drink Xiangpiaopiao, so I once suspected that they couldn’t orbit the earth at all. Three circles! Some things that you subconsciously think are like this may be just an illusion or someone else is just bragging.”

"You're right, those ads are just bragging, too exaggerated."

"Yeah, and those recent ads are just as retarded."

In fact, the girl has no intention of getting an accurate answer from you to this kind of question, so she will not be angry because you changed the subject. On the contrary, as long as your posture is confident enough, girls will even regard your nonsense as profound hints.

For example, in the above paragraph, a girl’s rich imagination will form an illusion: you are telling her in a subtle way that the fragrance cannot circle the earth three times = you have not had many girlfriends. In this way, it doesn’t matter whether the question is answered or not. Anyway, the topic has been taken astray. Wouldn’t it be more fun to happily fight those disgusting ads that brag about it together!

2. Exaggerate the girl’s problems

The purpose of following the girl’s words is to catch them off guard. When a girl asks some questions, she is prepared. She knows that according to normal thinking, you will definitely object to her. For example, if she tells you what shortcomings you have or what mistakes you have made, you will subconsciously deny it. But once you really answer like this, you have fallen into her trap, and then she can lead you by the nose according to her own script.

What I didn’t expect was that you would actually admit that this was like punching her into confusion. Then you doubled down on the mistakes and shortcomings she mentioned, completely shattering her original thinking. ideas. In this way, the girl finds that her script no longer works and loses the initiative. Then you can easily guide her thinking to follow you.

For example, if you speak very seductively, and then a girl asks you: "Do you often lie to girls like this?"

You can reply like this: "You found out! Not only do I often use sweet words to deceive girls, I also do more extreme things!"

"Ah? What else will you do?"

"I will Let them treat me to dinner, let them take me to eat chicken, and let them sing to me. By the way, are you having a good time eating chicken?"

"Pfft, I thought you did something. I'm having a great time eating chicken, do you want me to take you?"

After a girl's thinking is disrupted, it is difficult to organize the language to sing with you in a short period of time. You can only say what you say. She answered subconsciously. Lead the topic so eazy!

3. Make a rake

Some questions are trap questions and are neither suitable Answering directly is not suitable for changing the topic. If you are positive, both of you will be embarrassed. If you avoid, the girl will have random thoughts, and the more you avoid, the easier it will be for her thoughts to extend in a malicious direction.

For example, womenThe student asked: "Are you a virgin?"

How do you answer this question? Be upfront. Sorry, unless the girl is deliberately teasing you, if you answer directly yes or no, the girl will immediately give in. I won’t talk to you again.

If you hesitate to speak, girls will think: I dare not answer this, this guy must have harmed many girls, and I feel guilty! Or: Tsk, did I tell you the truth? You must be a loser if you are still a virgin at your age!

For issues like this, we need to break out of the traps set by girls and re-establish our own framework.

If you are older, you can pretend to be profound and shake your head: "I trust you so much in vain, you actually doubt me!"

The girl will be caught off guard and ask you questions. : "What do you suspect?"

"Because you suspect that I have never had a girlfriend! Tell me, do you have any thoughts about me."

If you are younger, you You can come up with a "bad guy complains first": "Wow, little sister, why are you so dirty? Tell me, what are your intentions towards me."

This answer cleverly avoids the question of whether you are a virgin or not. , you can also reopen a new "health" topic.

To chat and laugh with girls, it won’t work just to learn other people’s ready-made chat cases. No matter how much you read, it can only be regarded as copying them by rote.

What you really should master are ideas. By learning these ideas, you can respond flexibly to different scenarios that occur in reality.