It is said that when chatting with a girl, you need to resonate with her, so that the girl will feel that the two of you have the same experience, and that you and she have the same views, then she will automatically put you into the same category, the so-called congeniality. That’s how it came about. So how do you resonate with girls when chatting with them? What are some ways to chat that resonate with girls?
1. What is resonance
Resonance, understood literally, can be divided into two parts:
1. Common: things experienced together, things we did together.
2. Ming: The same emotion occurs, and the voice in the heart is the same.
Therefore, if you want to resonate with girls when chatting, you need to do the above two points.
2. How to resonate with girls when chatting
1. Get in touch with each other more
For a girl you just met, you have nothing in common and you don’t know much about whether the girl has had similar experiences to you, so it’s difficult to resonate with her. So what should you do? At this time, you need to experience getting along more, and ask more girls out on dates. The more time you spend together, the more things you will experience together, but you will also have time to chat.
2. Find emotional resonance
Of course, you can also resonate with a girl when you first meet her, but it is more likely to be an emotional resonance because of the time you actually spend together. Not at all. How to do it specifically? At this time, you need to find out the girl's interests and talk to her. If you don't find the girls' interests, you can talk about topics that girls like: entertainment gossip, food, etc.
3. Explore the commonalities between you
Another way to resonate with girls when chatting is to Find out what you have in common, for example:
When you chat with a girl and talk about travel, she says that she has been to Jiuzhaigou, and you happen to have been there too. You can express your inner feelings about Jiuzhaigou. Come out and resonate with her. You can also tell the story about what happened when you were traveling in Jiuzhaigou, because the girl has also been there, so she will be very interested in hearing it. Her consciousness will follow your description and return to that place.
4. Emotional resonance
Sometimes even if you and a girl have no common experiences, you can still find ways to have emotional resonance with the girl. For example, if a girl is complaining to you about her boss exploiting her employees, she will complain to you when chatting at night. At this time, you can try to resonate with the girl's emotions and follow her words to comfort her. For example, "How can there be such a leader? This is too much to bully others." She will feel that you are on her side or that you understand her.
5. Resonance with similar experiences5.h3>
First let the girl tell her experiences and stories, and then slowly tell her own experiences, so that the girl can discover that you and she have similar experiences. Make her feel why you are so destined, and she will care about you more.
